Xmas & Coming out!

So… I have to wait to come out because I don’t want to ruin people’s holidays. Although I already told my brother that I was trans. I think this is actually good because it will give me more time to define and figure out exactly how I feel about my gender issues. Currently its like this:

I am not a male but I am not a female. I am something in between. I am both male and female… can’t there be another gender? And it doesn’t matter what I tell people they are going to view me as female or male…. that’s it. Simply because there is no word for it. I am so tempted to make up a word, but what would it be. Would there be a seperate word for someone who was born male and someone who was born female?

I was watching one show and the person on there was saying that they would refer to themselves as “gender queer”. I am not sure that’s easy enough to say as him or her. Plus you need different ways to say it. Maybe use hem (e is short) instead of him or her. But I still need a word. Shi instead of he or she (the i is long).  I could pull from a the foreign words calalai or calabai from the indonesians. I am still pondering a word… Here’s a video about the culture with 5 genders.

Even if I do come up with a word… How do we spread it around and make it used in culture. How do we get it added to forms and stuff? Is this another way to fight for our rights?

3 Comments Add yours

  1. Rafe says:

    Hello. I completely sympathize with your question – I finally just went from HER to HIM. However, I know that there are a lot of trans and gender queer people who use what is essentially a third set of pronouns – people like Kate Bornstein, Leslie Feinberg, etc. They mainly use “hir” and “zhe” and so on.

    Anyway, good luck. It sounds like you have a good handle on who you are, which is the first step to getting the rest of the world to respect your actual self.

  2. Nightmote says:

    I think that all of the debate about a “third gender” (or fourth or seventh) is pointless. The issue is one of tolerance, not identity. As a good conservative republican, I believe that everybody from the toothless gun-toting West-Virgina recluse to the swishy New York transsexual deserves equal protection under the law.

    I sincerely hope that your family can look through your gender issues and see the child and sibling that has always been there.

  3. Rusty says:

    I know that the bible teach us that to do this is wrong, but it also teach us to love they neighbor. I have had many friends that was trans gender and transvestite, and i want to make it clear i bid them no ill will what so ever. I hope they find thier place in life weather male female or both. As nightmate said and i quote “The issue is one of tolerance”. A person is a person is a person regardless of race color creed or sex.

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