Genderqueer? Transgendered?

I don’t know… Am I Genderqueer or am I just a butch. OR is a butch Genderqueer? Am I more comfortable being male? I am more familiar with pretending to be a woman. I identify with many female issues, BUT I also feel distant from them. I find myself questioning my gender every day. So when I hear someone say they are confused about my gender I want to say, “Well now you know how I feel!”

10 Comments Add yours

  1. Dan says:

    Genderqueer and transgender are both, at their best, really inclusive. Go with both (or don’t but don’t worry about it).

  2. Jessica MacGilvray says:

    Sounds to me like you’re picking the box you want other people to label you. I usually respond to the question by saying I am trans. 95% of people don’t know what that is and 88% of people won’t ask what it is. My advice: grow a beard. This will settle 98% of people who “need” to know. Who cares what they think anyway. T changes the way you feel, too. There is a difference between emoting male and feeling male. 99% of males, for example won’t really understand monthly fuzzies – intellectually grasp, sure, but that ain’t exactly understanding.

    1. I don’t like facial hair and will not grow it, instead I have decided to lose weight, build muscle and make myself muscular. I can wrap my brain around that and its good for me. 🙂

      1. Jessica MacGilvray says:

        Losing weight is seldom a bad idea, in moderation. Muscling up can be good, but be aware it has a price… once you are muscled up, you have to keep up the routine. Arnold Schwarzenegger, for example, worked with his doctors on a ten year program to gradually reduce his muscle mass and the time he has to spend maintaining, so that he could have a trimmer, lower maintenance physique without risking congestive heart failure. That happens to many mega athletes. They train 19 hours a day for decades, and then they get injured or they stop exercising and very shortly after have a heart attack.

      2. I do everything in moderation and I am not talking Arnold Schwarzenegger muscles I mean more like Bob Harper from the Biggest Loser.

      3. Here’s a photo of Bob. Now if I lose weight and am still in desire to have my breasts removed I will have them surgically removed.

        So imagine this type of body build, with no facial hair, likely without breasts.

      4. Jessica MacGilvray says:

        Well, Bob has certainly been blessed with an excellent physique. I don’t think anyone would complain about having that body. Some of us are rather more like Nora Batty than Bob Harper (

      5. Well I look more like this –

      6. Jessica MacGilvray says:

        We all do. Well, most of us. I could never really bother with my appearance and always thought people who did were self-obsessed narcissists. Always felt superior to them, too — such is the way of insecurities.

  3. Josie says:

    For all the difference it makes: I love you for who you are, regardless of what its name is, stranger.

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