I don’t know… Am I Genderqueer or am I just a butch. OR is a butch Genderqueer? Am I more comfortable being male? I am more familiar with pretending to be a woman. I identify with many female issues, BUT I also feel distant from them. I find myself questioning my gender every day. So when I hear someone say they are confused about my gender I want to say, “Well now you know how I feel!”
Izzy Ahee 
Genderqueer and transgender are both, at their best, really inclusive. Go with both (or don’t but don’t worry about it).
Sounds to me like you’re picking the box you want other people to label you. I usually respond to the question by saying I am trans. 95% of people don’t know what that is and 88% of people won’t ask what it is. My advice: grow a beard. This will settle 98% of people who “need” to know. Who cares what they think anyway. T changes the way you feel, too. There is a difference between emoting male and feeling male. 99% of males, for example won’t really understand monthly fuzzies – intellectually grasp, sure, but that ain’t exactly understanding.
I don’t like facial hair and will not grow it, instead I have decided to lose weight, build muscle and make myself muscular. I can wrap my brain around that and its good for me. 🙂
Losing weight is seldom a bad idea, in moderation. Muscling up can be good, but be aware it has a price… once you are muscled up, you have to keep up the routine. Arnold Schwarzenegger, for example, worked with his doctors on a ten year program to gradually reduce his muscle mass and the time he has to spend maintaining, so that he could have a trimmer, lower maintenance physique without risking congestive heart failure. That happens to many mega athletes. They train 19 hours a day for decades, and then they get injured or they stop exercising and very shortly after have a heart attack.
I do everything in moderation and I am not talking Arnold Schwarzenegger muscles I mean more like Bob Harper from the Biggest Loser.
Here’s a photo of Bob. Now if I lose weight and am still in desire to have my breasts removed I will have them surgically removed.
So imagine this type of body build, with no facial hair, likely without breasts.
Well, Bob has certainly been blessed with an excellent physique. I don’t think anyone would complain about having that body. Some of us are rather more like Nora Batty than Bob Harper (http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_5Zz5ApPufB0/SUT8AkG_3tI/AAAAAAAAB2g/bR4xac9Pgfw/s400/Kathy+Staff+as+Nora+Batty.jpg)
Well I look more like this –
We all do. Well, most of us. I could never really bother with my appearance and always thought people who did were self-obsessed narcissists. Always felt superior to them, too — such is the way of insecurities.
For all the difference it makes: I love you for who you are, regardless of what its name is, stranger.